Siblings Without Rivalry: How to Help Your Children Live Together So You Can Live Too

What I like most about this book is not its practicality (it's VERY practical -- you can do this stuff ASAP), but its underlying theme that dealing with sibling problems helps build children's self-worth. There's tons of great examples on how to get your kids to stop fighting -- what to say and how to say it in the right way. That's the practical part. But underneath everything is the fact that sibling rivalry can affect us well into adulthood and define who we are as people. The authors show us that helping siblings get along isn't just nice for our own peace and quiet, but that in the long term it helps our children feel confident and learn to creatively solve problems on their own. There's also cartoon examples that are easy to show/share with other caregivers who aren't reading the entire book.

I HIGHLY recommend this book if your kids are anywhere near mine and constantly bickering and fighting. I read this book I'm just a couple of days. It has a lot of great tips that are easy to implement. I've already started using some of the suggestions, and it has amazed me how it's actually worked to diffuse situations. After I finished, I went through it again to re-read all of the things I highlighted just to refresh myself. I wish I had read this years ago when my kids were little.

If parenting books were to be solely judged on their practicality, Siblings Without Rivalry would rate well. The book delves into the issues of children that do not get along; from simple arguments to escalated physical conflicts. The presentation of the material revolves around stories straight out of a parenting classroom. With the vast number of issues and viewpoints coming from a multitude of parents, this style offers a wide range of advice to encompass many areas. The book also contains a number of illustrations showing children responding to good and bad methods. I'd venture to say if you only merely read the illustrations, these messages conveyed alone will give you ample insight to strengthen your parenting skills. The book is a reactive book, based on the notion that problems already exist. If you are seeking a book on merely promoting a positive atmosphere, this will not be what you are looking for. However, if you have children who do not get along as well as you would like, or perhaps you would at least like to see learn what parental mistakes might promote more difficulty, this book will prove to be well worth your time.

My number one recommendation to parents on the journey to a better family life!

This book reads like a novel. I literally could not put it down, staying up way past my bed time and paying the price the next day. It describes a multi-week workshop that the author held. Each week there are stories from the parents, ideas from the lecturer, questions, problems, hearts being poured out, family stories, including the tales of the adults (now parents) who survived difficult sibling situations. You get to know some of the people in the workshop, and you live through the ups and downs of applying workshop ideas to their families. You want things to end well and you wait with abated breath for what happens next. On top of that, the ideas are eye-opening, life-changing and at the same time so obvious! Like, how could I fail to see that?! Never have I encountered such an excellent read in parenting books, nor, come to think of it, any non-fiction that comes to mind. Just don't start reading it at night! You could be a very cranky mommy in the morning!

This book, along with the equally helpful (and cumbersomely titled) How To Talk So Kids Will Listen And Listen So Kids Will Talk, are the two parenting books that I recommend time and again. They are, to my mind, brilliant works that ACTUALLY WORK. They have brought me sanity (along with the feeling some days that I'm actually doing a decent job at this parenting gig) in own life, and a far more peaceful home. I open both of them at random on a regular basis, and never fail to be reminded of something useful. My husband, not one to read parenting manuals, has even read this book and agrees it is logical and "surprisingly effective." Overall, I honestly believe this book, along with How To Talk, can help you and your children achieve happy, healthy relationships that encourage cooperation and foster loving feelings -- rather than providing a set of authoritarian and/or punitive rules that at best only elicit the hoped-for behavior in the short term.

I've read this book twice through. I'm probably going to read it for a third time soon. I like the general ideas shared. I like the format of the book: how the topics are divided, and that the authors share the conversations they've had with others. I very much appreciate this book. It has given me a lot to think about and process. Some of the things I've gotten out of the book: let each sibling experiment everything (no need to stick to labels -i.e. he's athletic, so only he gets to do sports), when spending time alone with one child, don't talk about the other. These are things that seem obvious, but the book really provided a fresh lenses for me. My kids were 4 and under 1, when I read it for the first time.

Amazing book! This book is perfect for those who practice gentle parenting. It gives practical advice that gets to the bottom of the actions and gives the child the tool he needs to deal with his feelings appropriately. There are no punishments given out, which I love because while punishments *might* change the behavior temporarily, it doesn't actually fix anything. In one day I started noticing a difference in bahvior with my four boys. Usually when they get mad at each other, they just haul off and hit each other. Now they are talking about how they feel and communicating what they want. Obviously there is still some fighting but its gotten so much better. And the bickering has lessoned as well. I read this all in less than two days and will be rereading it!

This book is like an instruction manual for parenting. It provides very specific and clear steps for changing the way we communicate with children. When I made the changes described in the book, it had an immediate, positive effect!

Recommend this to anyone who has or is planning to have multiple children, or even those who want to process their own sibling experiences. It is such a practical and powerfully insightful book

Excelente libro....TOP 3 libro para recomendar a papás con un segundo hijo en camino!!!! Increíble todo lo que presentan y la manera en la que lo hacen. expresa totalmente el sentir de los padres y las soluciones. Muy muy recomendado!!!

This book is full of great stories and ideas, and is very useful to even those with education or child development backgrounds. Exercises can be tried right away at home. Great way to help clients. Highly recommend.

leuk boek, vol afwisselende voorbeelden zit die je goed als ouder helpen om in te zien hoe het ook anders kan met weinig moeite. geschreven in vlotte stijl met humor.